I suggest you move on...

She says - 'I suggest you move on'..

You will suddenly feel as if earth has moved below your feet... Tsunami has struck your heart and there is a sudden rush of adrenaline in your brain.. you dont know how to react.. you want to stop it but you know somewhere inside that it wont stop..
You promised you wont be angry at her.. for a while you were thinking you were the most patient man on earth..you anwered all her questions so patiently and repeteadly...you had answers to all her questions all this while.. but today there was nothing you had to say...
You knew this was going to happen.. but your heart is not ready to still believe it..
You fail to understand how can she be so heartless.. 
It took you 26 years to find a girl and like the icecream flovor she likes, but then she leaves you for no obvious reasons. you are left there disheartened, in a thoughtless state thinking the reason why she did so. you loved her and were willing to leave anything you had for her.
its difficult to forget someone so special and its even difficult to wait for someone...but you can forget her for her sake, or you can wait for a zillion years for her with just one assuring word that she will be back. But what should you do if you are not sure whether you should forget her or wait for her. she reserved a corner in your heart and that corner is hers forever.. no one ever can occupy that place and even she knows that.
She says 'I understand... but Hurting you hurts me equally'.. Understand??? Can she even understand 1% of what you are feeling now?? Hurting me hurts her ?? U will think there is nothing left in you to get hurt anymore....
She will say she dint do anything intentionally.... Intentionally?? then y did she even do it??
U know she was genuine all this while.. she is not heartless.. she is just too emotional.. but still you would scream at her..U want her to be hurt equally..but she would not be.. U r angry on her for the first time...

People will say you cant live without her.. but no.. here is the climax.. you can ..you can live without her... but!!! but!!! you cannot live with someone else too... you know your life will never be the same.
you think she played with your heart.. with your emotions.. you fail to understand why she did it to you.. but then your heart takes over and you are left thoughtless... there are no egos.. no chauvinisms.. no grudges.. no anger..only one voice echos again and again...
"I loved you a lot.. a lot"...

All love stories do not have a happy ending.. but they are special in their own way..they may last for 30 yrs, 3 yrs or just 3 months.. there is no measure of the amount of happiness and pain it brings with itself.

Disclaimer- Dont think i have written it for someone... and plzz it is not aimed at anyone!!1

Suffering from the "Grass Is Green" Syndrome !!!

Grass Is Green Syndrome (GIGS) is a very deadly syndrome which makes you think negetively about everything going on in your life, even though there is nothing wrong actually.
The name 'Grass Is Green' suggests that humans have insatiable desire for more.. we always think grass is greener on the other side of the fence.. life of others is more happening/peaceful than ours.. they are happier than us.. We always strive to live their life and forget about our own life.. but we are out of this syndrome once we realise that our life is so much better.. It is said that this syndrome majorly attacks men once they get married.. :P
Diagnosis of GIGS is not very easy... and if not diagnosed and treated on time may result in even more dissatisfaction in your life..
GIGS has not reported causes.. it can strike you anytime.. here are the symptoms--
Your default mode is 'Frustation'
You feel your job sucks.. its repeatative.. its boring..
You feel you are unlucky in love..
You strongly feel things will be better if you change your job or apartment or gf/bf.. whichever sucks most...
You feel drinking helps.. but actually it does not.. it worsens the syndrome..
I have underlined the word FEEL coz its all your perception... if you see around..
you realise you have so many things to cheer about.. nice paying job.. nice apartment.. nice friends.. amazing things happening in life.. but all this doesnt matter coz your perception is negetive..

I guess I was facing the Grass Is Green Syndrome sometime back.. but m just out of it..
Its time to Be Positive :)

It touched my heart ....

Disclaimer - The below poem is not my original, just loved it on internet and posted it here

I brought you the sun you said it was too bright
so I brought you the moon and you said it only shone in parts!
I gave you my strength you said I was too strong
so I toned it down and you said you didn’t feel protected!

I said I loved everything about you, you said I like to flatter
so I with-held my compliments and you said I don’t appreciate you enough!
I gave you my world you said all you needed was my attention
So I gave you all my attention and you said you are worth much more than just attention…
I bought you diamonds and pearls you said money can’t buy your love,
So I opted not to and you say money sustains relationships!

I said I wanted to rest and you said I was ignoring you
so I call on you every chance I get and you said I crowd your space!
I try being sensitive to your emotions you say I’m too soft
so I just show up when you call on me and you say I neglect you!
I tell you I love you, you say I need to show it
So I show you love and you say I have to say that I love you!

What I do never seems to be good enough
what I do not do is definitely bad enough:
Please take me as I am,
And I’ll certainly be what you want me to be!

Any publicity is good publicity!!

There were times when people used to proove their mettle by showing skills.. and results.. and they were rewarded.. but it seems that the world today looks for only one skill - Communication skill.. if you dont have that.. you dont have the key reach at the top..
Visibility.. Networking.. Elevator Pitch.. Clear communication..Diplomatic behaviour...all these terms have been repeatedly used in organisations now a days.. We never heard these words from our parent's as at their time.. what mattered most was technical knowledge and degree and not what you call as the skill to communicate...
There is a race to increase your visibility... nobody wants to be at the backend and perform.. all want the stage limelight..When i was a junior in my organisation I used to think, when i get promoted.. i will attend meetings/client calls/webnairs and seminars.. and people will know me.. they will recognize my work. It has been 4.5 years since then.. and I have seen a remarkable shift in the employee mentality.. Now i became a senior to some freshers.. but they all want to share the stage.. right from the begenning.. they do not want their manager to take their share of limelight.. they start cribbing the day they join.. they do not want to do any ground work.. they just want to jump to the top.. without learning the basics.. I dont know this mentality is because all my juniors are MBAs or because of the overall paradigm shift in the thought process of employees...
It seems everything they do.. the focus is on 'Visibility'
Whereever they go... the focus is on 'Networking'
Whatever they speak.. the focus in on 'Being Diplomatic or Politically Correct'
When they behave.. the focus is on 'Self Branding.. USP'

A complete new generation of smart employees has evolved, who are competing against each other for the top position.. but in actual dont add any value to the organisation except being visible ..

I guess...its high time that i also learn the tricks of the trade.. and become a part of this never ending marathon for life.. a marathon of networking...   :)

Childrens Day- Celebration or Pity !!!

We as kids.. looked forward to childrens day, as we would have function in school, we would get sweets.. and it would be a special day dedicated only to us..
But as i grew up and learnt to see the realities, childrens day no longer became a day of celebration, rather.. it reminded me of all those kids who are not so fortunate. Their day is no different on childrens day. you will find them on chai stall early in the morning, serving chai , cleaning utensils, eating left over food.. or you can find them on construction sites picking bricks heavier than their weight, or taking care of the younger one in the sun when their mother is working at construction...Does childrens day make any difference to their life?? i dont think so.. 1 in 3 of the world's malnourished children lives in India.. more than 12 million children are exploited for child labor.. the most exploitative form being child prostitution.. they are overworked.. underfed.. and underpaid..
On the other side of the coin, we see next gen kids who are smarter than adults.. who know laptop operations at age of 5, who live in a virtual world..they good at studies.. good at sports..attend communication skill classes starting class 5th...they have doting parents who focus all their attention on the kid..
On one side we say the coming generation in India would be lucky as it would be born and bought up in a strong developing & domination nation.. But when i see the actual India.. i feel pity.. Are we any better than Africa or other underdeveloped nations in this respect ???

Every kid deserves a good life..
I believe.. if we have been born fortunate.. it is our duty to help atleast one kid with a better future..

People who live on the surface Vs deeper people

We meet different kinds of people in life.. some are serious while some bubbly.. some are introverts while others extroverts...some are grave while some are just happy go lucky..
I always thought that people who are serious, introvert and grave kinds are difficult to handle.. coz their emotions run way deeper than others.. they dont take things lightly and such people dont share their heart with everyone.. While I being the exact opposite of the above description I always ran away from such people.. even though i have had quite a few friends in the serious category.. but they have been quite difficult to handle becoz they dont take things in the light spirit and they dont forget your misdeeds so easily..

I always wanted to be friends with the happy go lucky kinds.. wanted to be around people who make the atmosphere so chill... the people who live on the surface.. take life as it comes and are not serious enough.. But soon I realised that such people may not be good for your health.. they will forget you the moment you stop talking them.. and will find new friends quickly..
People who live on the surface will make you smile, chill, laugh.. they will be good at making promises.. they will make castles in thin air.. their talks will take you to an entirely different world and will indirectly force you to see things from their eyes.. but such extroverts forget promises.. those castles in the air.. the moment they are away.. they are quick in making friends.. and equally quick in quitting ...
I realised that serious people are sometimes good to be friends with.. they dont entertain.. they dont make me laugh.. they are not really fun to be with... but they are there when i need them.. when i am sad, they will go the extra mile to make me smile..even though they dont know how to crack PJs...they never forget me when i stop talking to them..
I used to be a bubbly, surface living person. but still I have been lucky to have some good friends in life... :)

I like it on the couch...

If you were following Facebook for past 1 week.. you would have got the meaning of the title..
So where do you like it?
It was so strange to see women posting their FB Status as "I like it on the sofa".. "I like it on the couch".. "I like it on the bean bag"...and and and... " i like it on the dressing table?"..
This kept me wondering the meaning of "it" in these statuses.. Actually women would still give u decent guesses for the meaning of "it".. but MEN just thought it.. probably imagined it.. and.. you would see many men replying "Men like it anywhere".. HA HA HA..
But noooo... the meaning of IT is not what you just thought...
So many of my friends. collegues and classmates had a variety of answers to "where would they like it?" It was kind of strange to see such bold and blunt attitude of people.. But finally the mystery evolved and i got the meaning of "it".. I felt so stupid..how come i realise it so late...
Actually "where would you like it?" was a facebook campaign to spread the awareness for Breast Cancer.. this meant women to answer - "where would they like to keep their handbag/purse"...You just have to keep it as your status message and spread word among your women friends to do the same..
Because of the cryptic nature and mystery of such messages.. many had their heads scratching as to what is this going on...
Nice and fun way to spread awareness.. waao....

Give a second chance to good and bad.. equally!!!

Our 5 senses.. sense of smell, touch, see, hear and taste..enable humans to recognise things and form perceptions of everything that we come across.. But what happens when there is a conflict between the two senses. Then how do you resolve these conflicts.. how do you draw conclusions and which sense do you believe..
It happens many a times that a sweet voice on the phone which pleases your ear might turn out to be of a monstor.. or a dish which looks delicious to the eye might be pathetic in taste..Next time if you see the same dish on your dining table you might not feel like eating it irrespective that it is made by a different cook..because we have formed pre-conceived notions about things.. people.. food everything..
All these notions are based on our experience and hence we trust our feelings more than we trust the cook who made that dish...May be the second time also the dish turns out to be pathetic.. but the question is will you give that delicious looking thing.. a third chance to please your taste buds.. or will you just say "yakkk" and leave it on the table.. very likely that we will react in the "Yakk" way...
But I think it deserves another chance.. you never know u might end up liking it.. or your gesture might bring a smile on the cook's face for the effort that he made for you..and if not that.. it will atleast reaffirm your bad experience with that dish..
For the sake of goodness left in this world....give chances to everything.. good and bad.. to challenge your perception.. you never know what might turn up.... but TRUST only your instinct.. only your pre-conceived notions.. unless there is a very compelling reason to change them..

" I wanna do Franship wid you "

I am sure everybody might have got the content of this blogpost just by looking at the title..

Friendship cannot happen over the phone or internet.. but "Fraanship" can. Welcome to the world of social networking.. where everyday you will get 5-6 friend requests from people you dont know.. and if you have uploaded a photo in which you supposedly look good.. then the number might increase to 15-18 on an average.. it seems everyone wants to do Fraanship with you... and if you dont accept those unknown requests, some people might even just crack your number and call you.. I dont know what will they get out of Fraanship with me.. All such things used to look very exciting when i was in my engineering but now it seems disgusting..
I see the younger generation and i feel pity for them.. the social networking sites have turned this world into a virtual market.. where people look for prospective Fraands/girlfrnds/boyfrnds. Students as young as 8th standard want to upload their best pics in orkut/facebook so that they can be noticed.. they chat with unknown people late in the night without knowing the danger of what lies ahead.. even people who are not very educated, who dont have a job and who dont have a proper social circle also have 200-300 friends list.. they look for females who have a phone number updated and call them.. instead of concentrating on the basics of education and life.
I realised this when i recieved a call from an unknown person..and i realised my mistake of updating my phone number on orkut. "I wanna do fraanship wid u" he said. and i said "Excuse me.. i dont even know you".. and kept the phone down.. and now the guy has got another activity to do-- "he is sending me messages.. ur voice is sweet.. can we talk.. can we b fraens etc etc.. " Thanks to the mobile companies who have come up with schemes for consumers -- "Rs 31 k recharge pe 5000 local/national msgs free".. and this is how those free messages are being used... Social networkin was build with a purpose to bring old friends together.. rather than being a menace of Franships which can turn into a nighmare.. nobody knows..

Corporate Life burning your fat or turning you fat...

Fat people are happy people.....in fact thats what is the first impression we get when we see a fat person... "खाते पीते घर का लगता है"... but thats not true..
As we joined the corporate world after MBA almost 3 months back.. we all have started looking like "खाते पीते घर का" but are we really the happy-go-lucky jolly people... i dont think so..
It seems the job has made us more frustated and boring of all people...we get up in the morning as usual.. no excitement.. no hopes.. no assignments like college.. attend office .. come back.. again sit over the laptop and watch some movies.. waiting for the weekend to arrive.. we are more lethargic than ever and it seems all the ambitions have died... infact after MBA i have seen that even in office we are not able to find good guys coz half of them are married and rest are in their 30s which makes them less attractive to flirt with.. leave flirt.. we dont even find good friend circle..
In childhood.. when we used to meet old friends after long time.. we used to say kitna lamba ho gaya.. 6 foot ka ho gaya etc etc..
Now.. when we meet our old friends.. we measure the changes by width.. 32 inch se 42 inch ka ho gaya.. and the changes can be seen in just 3-4 months...
Science has proved that depression leads to obesity.. so are we turining obese because we are happy or becoz we are sad... no body knows the answer.. but guys.. lets take a pledge that we will not be wanted to measured by our width or dullness.. we need to be youthful.. lets start being youthful once again.. lets start a new day as a fresh day like we used to do in college.. lets talk and laugh loud instead of just working.. lets walk instead of being a couch potato.. lets take stairs instead of the lift and lets again get in touch with old frinds and let them say... "Khate peete ghar ka lagta hai/lagti hai " :)